Larry O’Connor, Marriage and Family Therapist
I strive to help individuals understand how they want to live and relate authentically, according to their own sensibilities and intentions, with confidence and consideration. An individual I once worked with said, “The only people who are normal, are the ones you don’t know very well.” This has proven true in life and in my practice. Individuals rarely, or need not achieve what’s “normal,” but instead resolve a version for themselves. Too often we limit ourselves, live in self-isolation, in our thoughts, beliefs, aspirations, or what we want from relationships. Change requires clarifying who we are, what we want, believe, and feel, and examining and addressing our concerns.
In healthy relationships individuals are able to openly communicate, without reprimand, or their partner personalizing what they’ve said. I encourage couples to develop Differentiation: recognizing individuality can mutually exist with commitment. The opposite of differentiation is enmeshment, becoming entangled, giving up one’s identity to avoid repercussions but later resenting it.
My style is active, informal, and humorous. Together we’ll articulate the changes you want, and collaboratively devise strategies to resolve the challenges of putting them into practice. Clients feel comfortable and validated with me. Therapy offers solutions, improved self esteem, and realistic recognition of abilities.
My Specialties Include:
- Improving and Understanding Relationships and Communication
- Working through Separation, and Resolving Divorce, and Co-Parenting
- Successfully Managing Depression and Anxiety
- Finding Meaning and Purpose in life
- Making Successful Transitions
- Men’s Issues
- Addressing Substance Abuse, and Addictions
Phone & Skype Sessions Now Available
Because of the responses I have received from around the country for the articles I’ve posted on my website, such as Men’s Challenges with Separation and Divorce, Sexual Performance Anxiety in Men, Coming Clean: Repairing a Relationship After an Affair, What Men Mean When They Say They Don’t Want a Relationship, I now offer phone and Skype sessions.
Theories I draw from:
- Existential psychotherapy
- Humanistic psychology
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Interpersonal psychoanalysis
I have offices both in San Francisco and Palo Alto.
I always encourage you to read or post a review on Yelp.
** For Yelp Reviews please got to https://biz.yelp.com/r2r/1lbWlbB7tqNc3brPFQJcaQ/Pl
Also note the “4 other reviews not currently recommended” at the bottom of the reviews page. Given current limitations with Yelp’s “Recommendation Software,” these Reviews do not initially come up.
Larry O’Connor can be reached at
or (415) 225-3032.