Larry O’Connor, Marriage and Family Therapist
I work with individuals, couples, teens and families. My style is informal, though serious, while at times humorous. I don’t fit people I work with into theories, but try to understand each person and their concerns by listening and responding in ways that clarify, before offering suggestions or alternatives. The individuals and couples I’ve worked with have expressed being understood and feeling comfortable working with me.
My focus with Individual Therapy is to articulate and explore the changes a person wants to make, and collaboratively solving the challenges while putting them into practice.I address apprehension related to self esteem, abilities, and changes are actually in the person’s best interest and those in their life.
With Couples Therapy I look at the individual dynamics each brings to their relationship. Difficulties are most often related to one or both feeling they can’t openly express themselves without reprimand, or the other personalizing what they’ve said, and later resenting this. This leaves communication unresolved so when conflict arises, as it normally does, not having consistent experience repairing it leads to more of the same. These patterns can be recognized, understood, and effectively changed by looking at the couple’s dynamics through problem solving and considering what each is actually trying to say verses how it’s being received.
Phone & Skype Sessions Now Available
Because of the responses I have received from around the country for a number of the articles I’ve posted on my website, such as Men’s Challenges with Separation and Divorce, Sexual Performance Anxiety in Men, Coming Clean: Repairing a Relationship After an Affair, What Men Mean When They Say They Don’t Want a Relationship, I now offer phone and Skype sessions.
My Specialties Include:
- Improving and Understanding Relationships and Communication
- Working through Separation, and Resolving Divorce, and Co-Parenting
- Successfully Managing Depression and Anxiety
- Finding Meaning and Purpose in life
- Making Successful Transitions
- Men’s Issues
- Addressing Substance Abuse, and Addictions
Theories I draw from:
- Existential psychotherapy
- Humanistic psychology
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Interpersonal psychoanalysis
I have offices both in San Francisco and Palo Alto.
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Larry O’Connor can be reached at
or (415) 225-3032.